When we got married, we entered into our
relationship with visions of fairy tales, where the couple lives
happily ever after. It didn’t take long when differences in our
illusions surfaced. “My way” and “your way” needed to be addressed,
but rarely did it turn into “our way.”
We didn’t know how to communicate our true feelings, because we
assumed that the other would know instinctively. After all, we loved
each other. What we learned over the years is this, we needed help
and support from friends and counselors to get over the rough edges
of life’s trials in everyday encounters.
We bring into marriage all the values and dynamics of our own
childhood which hinder us in our new relationship with another
person because deep down there is unresolved pain, insecurities, and
domineering traits. What we needed to do was to confront all of
these hidden needs and expect healing of the inner person. It’s not
easy to discover the truth within, but our faith in a loving God,
revealed in Jesus Christ and recorded in the Old and New Testament
helped us to heal and become mature persons over time.
Each human being is a miracle of creation by a magnificent God,
known in different cultures by many names. This creator God has made
us in His image that we might know him by his love for us and for
each other. We are spiritual beings with a soul that will return to
God when our life on earth is complete. There are no exceptions.
Without the divine law of love that teaches us to love one another
as God loves us and to love our neighbor as ourselves, human
beingsremain selfish and unsensitive to other people’s needs. This
applies to marriage, families and communities and even nations. When
we do wrong or hurt each other, we need to forgive and be restored.
It’s a daily occurrence. Jesus gave his life on the cross that we
might be forgiven for all our wrongdoing. It is the greatest gift
for humankind. To live by that is JOY!
In a marital relationship we need that intimacy of touching each
other, speaking what is on our mind in a kind and understanding
manner, we need to be honest with each other and allow each other
space. We need to enjoy activities together, but also foster
friendships with others. When we are blessed with children, marriage
takes on a new focus of dedication, sacrifice and wonder. Love your
children, discipline them with kindness, educate them, listen to
them, enjoy them. Gratitude is a major attitude toward all of life
‘s blessings that brings happiness. ?Marriage is not a piece of
cake, but very much worth it. The loving support and companionship
of two people is all it takes to grow old together and feel totally
comfortable with each other. Marriage has been likened to a crucible
that refines the gold as it goes through the fire. Here’s to 50
years of marriage and to the future whatever it may bring with the
Lord at our side!